More Than Just “Because I Said So”

Banning of dad saying 'Because I said so'

Let's talk about rules and why they matter. Kids, fuelled by natural curiosity, seek understanding from a young age. As they grow, it becomes crucial to convey not only the rules themselves but also the reasoning behind them. Regardless of age, the key is ensuring that your child comprehends the rules at home, recognizing there's no room for questioning without understanding the consequences.

For the little ones, a lengthy explanation might be challenging to grasp. Concepts like the need to be home by a specific time or the restriction on indoor ball games might be beyond their immediate understanding. However, what they do grasp is the desire to make you proud and happy. When faced with a "Why?" or "Why not?" about a rule, opt for an artful response: "It makes me happy when you follow the rules and do what I ask." Steer clear of the commonly used "Because I said so" line, as it tends to leave them frustrated and confused.

Now, addressing the older crew—teens and tweens—requires a more comprehensive approach. When they inquire with "Why?" or "Why not?" seize the opportunity to break it down for them. Be direct, honest, and clear in your communication. For instance, explain, "Be home by 10 p.m. because we have a dentist check-up early tomorrow, and punctuality is crucial." Utilize this moment to reiterate the consequences of rule-breaking: "Miss curfew, and you're grounded from hanging out at your friend's place for a week." Maintain steadfastness, strength, and crystal-clear communication.

While your child might present challenges, questioning the existence of rules is their way of flexing independent thinking muscles and navigating the complexities of the world around them.

In this artful approach to rule-setting and communication, the focus shifts from authoritarian directives to fostering understanding. By incorporating creativity and clarity in your responses, you create an environment where rules are not just mandates but integral components of a shared understanding between you and your child.

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